Satsang Thought for the day

So many people who have been abused, neglected, and

or hurt in many other ways have great difficulty getting to

true forgiveness. The way to get stuck and block yourself

from forgiveness is to mistakenly believe that by holding

on to your anger, rage, and hate that you are getting

revenge upon the person you choose not to forgive. Nothing

could be further from the truth. Forgiveness is NOT about

justifying anyone's wrong behaviour, ever. Forgiveness is

not about forgetting. Forgiveness does not mean that you

have to reconnect or have the person you want forgive

involved in your life. Forgiveness is remembering and making

a choice to let go. The letting go is for you. Forgiveness is

a gift that you can give to yourself. If you continue to hold

the hurt, anger, and hate, you only hurt yourself. You are

not hurting the person or persons that hurt you. In order for

forgiveness to be possible it is necessary to stop blaming.

No matter how much we may have suffered as children we

will stay stuck in our pain as long as we continue to blame

our abusers for all that has gone asunder in our lives.
When we own our own issues, and when we realize that

most of the things we are not pleased about in our lives

are a direct result of our own choices, only this kind of

ownership of our issues will enable us to move forward

and to forgive.
Forgiveness is Freedom

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